I attended a ‘sip and see’ today. Although, they are more common in the south, these parties to meet new babies seem to be making their way into our northeastern culture. The baby was almost four months old, but I still consider that a newborn. As is typical in our culture, everyone wanted to hold the baby. I wanted to talk to the mom. I wanted to know how she felt about her birth. Not what happened during her birth, how she felt about it.
I wanted to know how she was feeling. How she felt about having a second child. But, as is typical in our culture today, no one asked about the mom. Here she was, surrounded by women who love and want to support her, but everyone was distracted by the baby.
Don’t get me wrong, I love a cute little baby. I love the way they smell and the way they feel, but a new mom doesn’t need me to love her baby. My mom friends need me to love them. So, the next time you go to a baby shower, or a sip and see, or a first birthday party, see what you can do to help the mom. Sometimes that does mean holding the baby, but sometimes it means leaving the baby in her arms and holding her champagne glass to her lips, so that she too can drink to just how fabulous she is.